Why we (men and women) cheat!!!

Hi everyone, this is my first ever post so forgive me if it is a little bit shaky....the topic of cheating is something which i believe i look at in a different perspective to other women. When friends tell me that their boyfriends have cheated my reply is did he have an affair or a 1 night stand? Of course she looks at me like I'm crazy for asking but i think it is essential to establish this first. With an affair your partner goes out of his or her way to call the person and send them flowers, texts etc...they talk to them about their day and go shopping and go out for meals in other words an affair is calculated and consciously done. Your partner is doing things with their lover that they should or have done with you. there is intimacy and care in an affair. On the other hand there are one night stands. this could have been a drunken mistake, a moment of passion, a burst of anger which that individual allowed them (your partner) to show. when cheating is looked at in this way i say that an affair is what should end the relationship, but of course if your partner is a serial one night stander then you should probably re-evaluate the relationship. There is the 80-20 rule in a relationship....

lemme explain.

you already have 80% of what you are looking for in a partner but the desire for that 20% always lingers in you...so when 20% comes along and curiosity becomes your best friend you may find yourself inching towards it. some may ask why leave 80 for 20 but as the saying goes "curiosity killed the 'relationship'." he or she may have a semi-perfect partner but humans are greedy by nature and want perfection thus ending up cheating.. you now have 100% but from 2 different sources. My rule contradicts the 80-20 rule to an extent..in the sense that you first of all begin by questioning whether or not your served your partner their order....

lemme explain

you may have always gone 2 burger king but at some point in your like you felt for a change and went to KFC ....as one thing that humans like is change, this is not a big problem....lets apply this to a relationship.

Tyrone and Natasha started the relationship with being happy at having sex on Saturday and Tuesday as they were to busy and tired every other day but then Tyrone was getting bored of the repetitiveness of the relationship and felt for a change, he suggested this too Tasha but she still tried to keep to their routine. Along came Elle who offered Ty the avenue to apply his change.... when this was offered to him outside of his relationship he went for it out of curiosity and satisfaction for his new taste buds- remember that what you won't do another woman/man will. don't get it wrong this also applies to women if you serve you partner the wrong dish she will go looking else where.

i believe that in a serious relationship compromising becomes the key to the survival of the relationship..I'm not saying change for your partner just bend a little. By the way cheating is not just a male thing so women need to recognize that we too step out and look for our 20% or our new dish...i think were just more discreet about it and a little more careful.

Nwayz till next time....peace, love and prosperity